by Teresa LeYung-Ryan
This is 1 of 4 of my blog posts entitled “Parkinson’s Disease, My Chinese Papa, and My practicing The Four Agreements”
Remembering the mistakes I made when I was my mom’s advocate 15 years ago is benefitting another loved one.
Honestly, I didn’t know that I would be enjoying my new part-time job as my father’s exercise coach, appointment escort, and advocate OR that I would be practicing The Four Agreements (from Don Miguel Ruiz’s timeless book).
Agreement #1 - Be impeccable with my word
Wednesday evening while watching a Cantonese television program called Big Boys Club (the topic was about using a system to find meaningful relationships), my papa started expounding his philosophy. I asked him to turn down the volume so that I could better hear him. He obliged.
All was copacetic until he said “You’d be happier if you get a Masters degree. People who go back to school get ahead in life.”
What the #%#*? (I didn’t say it). I could feel my pulse quickening though. “Ridiculous!” I sputtered. I felt regret as soon as I heard the tone that went with the syllables. Then I said, “The most valuable lessons in life I learn from friends.”
Papa injected, “Mary’s brother is a doctor. He went to Harvard.”
What the #%#*? (I didn’t say it). What I did say was: “How wonderful for him. Okay, let’s say I did want to get a Masters degree. Many hours of school and studying. Who would be coming over here to help you exercise?”
There were two seconds of silence. Then, with a smile and warm eyes he said, “The important thing is that you are happy doing what you are doing.”
Why didn’t I stay calm earlier? The word “ridiculous” floated between Papa and me.
I suppose I’ll have to practice Agreement #4 – “Always do my best”
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· Build Your Writer’s Platform & Fanbase In 22 Days: Attract Agents, Editors, Publishers, Readers, and Media Attention NOW (workbook);
· Love Made of Heart: a Daughter Breaks Free from Her Violent Past as Her Mother Journeys through Mental Illness (novel used in college classes, recommended by the California School Library Association and the California Reading Association, and archived at the San Francisco History Center);
· “Talking to My Dead Mom” Monologues (the first monologue received an award from Redwood 10-Minute Play Contest and was staged at the 6th Street Playhouse in Santa Rosa, CA);
· Coach Teresa’s Blog (which attracts tens of thousands of writers) at http://WritingCoachTeresa.com helps writers build their platforms before and after publication