2020 April 3, 18:30 California time
Hello, Everyone,
Remember when American TV gave us PSAs? Public Service Announcements.
Perhaps if Charley & Humphrey (Mr. Pat McCormick) were on television and social media now, they’d be showing us what societal, moral responsibility is – to protect other people.
Even though I may not get seriously ill from COVID-19 also known as Coronavirus , I can get infected, with few or no symptoms, but then, I can infect another person who would then infect a vulnerable person who will then die. What I learned in biology class decades ago and what I’m learning from Dr. Fauci and Centers for Disease Control and Prevention (CDC) help me do my part.
Be safe! Stay healthy! Be kind!
Scientists Probe How Coronavirus Might Travel Through The Air
How to Protect Yourself & Others
https://www.cdc.gov/coronavirus/2019-ncov/prevent-getting-sick/prevention.html
How COVID-19 Spreads
Person-to-person spread
Spread from contact with contaminated surfaces or objects
How easily the virus spreads
https://www.cdc.gov/coronavirus/2019-ncov/prevent-getting-sick/how-covid-spreads.html
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Charley and Humphrey “Think for Yourself”
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=aKowhEtpCbo
and
Centers for Disease Control and Prevention (CDC)
https://www.cdc.gov/
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“If Charley & Humphrey (Mr. Pat McCormick) were here to show us”, says Story Consultant Teresa Jade LeYung
Teresa Jade LeYung
- photo by Mary E. Knippel
As a story theme consultant, award-winning writer, and platform-building coach for pre-published and published authors, Teresa Jade LeYung helps her clients identify their core themes and transform their manuscripts into novels, biographies and memoirs. http://lovemadeofheart.com/blog
Trevor Noah’s questions about Coronavirus COVID-19 Disease
Dr. Anthony Fauci gives answers that everyone on this planet needs to know, deserves to know.
2020 March 30, 03:22 California time
Bonjour, Everyone!
Please share this Youtube link with everyone you care about on this planet. Merci beaucoup!
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=8A3jiM2FNR8
If only this interview would be translated into all languages.
Dr. Fauci Answers Trevor’s Questions About Coronavirus | The Daily Social Distancing Show
At around four-and-a-half minutes into the interview, Trevor Noah asks Dr. Fauci about mortality rate and how people have misconstrued the numbers….
Dr. Fauci answers: “… Two things that are important. Even though you are young, you are not absolutely invulnerable for sure because we are seeing cases… most of them have some underlying disease, but, several don’t.
… young people, in their thirties, forties, who are getting sick, getting into the hospital, requiring intensive care. Still, the overwhelming proportion are the elderly with underlying disease, but every once in a while, you’re going to get a young person, so, if you think you’re completely invulnerable, you are incorrect.
Second issue that is important – that even though you may not get seriously ill, you can get infected, with relatively few symptoms, either asymptomatic or mild, relatively trivial symptoms, but then, you can infect another person who would then infect a vulnerable person who will then die.
A typical example – I’m young, I’m healthy, but you go home, you infect grandma, grandpa, a sick uncle, so, you have a responsibility not only to protect yourself but you also have a societal, a moral responsibility to protect other people…”
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Thank you to Ms. Tang of SolutionsBAC for finding this resource: Questions and Answers section at:
March 26, 2020 Coronavirus unemployment benefits. Here’s who qualifies and how much they get.
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March 16, 2020 Senator Nancy Skinner (D-Berkeley) and Assemblymembers Rob Bonta (D-Oakland) and Buffy Wicks (D-Oakland) issued the following joint statement on the six-county Bay Area Stay-at-Home order:
“During these unprecedented times, it is important that we take care of one another and make decisions that are in the best interest of public health.
“Today’s Order covering six Bay Area counties is a difficult, yet appropriate step to reduce the spread of COVID-19 and protect our families, friends, and communities. It is the right thing to do. This temporary step to stay at home unless absolutely necessary must be followed to reduce the harmful impact of this pandemic. Our County Health leaders are experts in their fields, and they have our best interests in mind.
Freelancers, Independent Contractors, Artists, Non-Profits – we are eligible to receive benefits during the Coronavirus COVID-19 crisis.
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These symptoms may appear 2-14 days after exposure (based on the incubation period of MERS-CoV viruses).
- Fever
- Cough
- Shortness of breath
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Please, everyone…
Stay healthy
Stay safe
Stay vibrant
Sincerely,
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Teresa Jade LeYung
L.E.A.D. is the acronym for
Law Enforcement Against Drugs
ON THE STREET AND IN THE CLASSROOM
STOP SCHOOL VIOLENCE
VISION
To create safer, healthier communities free of drugs, bullying, and violence.
MISSION
We will provide the leadership, resources and management to ensure law enforcement agencies have the means to partner with our educators, community leaders, and families by providing proven and effective programs to deter youth and adults from drug use, drug related crimes, bullying and violence. We are committed to reinforcing the mutual respect, goodwill and relations between law enforcement and their communities.
https://leadrugs.org/
Give Kids the Confidence and Skills They Need to Grow into Happy Healthy Adults
Cheering for Liza, CJ and everyone who help create safer, healthier communities free of drugs, bullying, and violence.
CJ and Liza of L.E.A.D. conducted community outreach in Berkeley, California.
L.E.A.D.
5 S. Main St.
Allentown, New Jersey 08501
info@leadrugs.com
609-259-2500 | Fax 609-228-6649
Ask about programs in your city.
YES! TO Giving Kids the Confidence and Skills They Need to Grow into Happy Healthy Adults!
Sincerely,
Teresa Jade LeYung
As a story theme consultant, award-winning writer, and platform-building coach for pre-published and published authors, Writing Coach TERESA JADE LEYUNG empowers her clients to identify their core themes in their manuscripts and career mapping.
http://lovemadeofheart.com/blog
Teresa Jade LeYung Recommends
2020 Self-Employment/Business Clinic
with Mary Tang of SolutionsBAC
When: Saturday, February 29, 2020, 11am – 1pm
Where: 4530 18th Street (between Ord & Douglas), San Francisco, CA 94114
Celebrate Life venue – 5 blocks from MUNI Castro station, along #33 Ashbury/18th bus route; street parking available
Facilitator: Mary Tang dba SolutionsBAC
Description: Self-Employment / Starting a Business
Want to start your own business but don’t know how to begin?
Perhaps you are already self-employed but want ideas to grow your business?
Attend this event!
Topics:
* how to set up a new business – needed steps and considerations
* starting up on a shoestring budget and using planning tools for your venture
* general tips on filing Schedule C for self-employed individuals (yes, it’s tax time!)
* inexpensive marketing and Internet resources; networking & getting leads via partnerships
* where to find your customers; fee setting and working with different types of clients
Bring your questions and let’s brainstorm solutions.
Please Note: The information being presented are general guidelines. You must consult your own tax, finance, or legal specialist to determine what is best suited for your specific situation. Workshop fee may be a tax-deductible business expense; please verify with your tax preparer.
Workshop Fee:
$50 pre-registration by Thursday, Feb 27, 2020; $60 at the door. Celebrate Life Members get a $10 discount.
If you’ve found out about this workshop through this blog post (published by Writing Coach Teresa Jade LeYung), please tell Ms. Tang and receive $10 discount.
Pre-register and pay via PayPal to the email account: SolutionsBAC @ gmail.com
If you can’t use PayPal, you can RSVP by Feb 27th to the above email address. Please include your first and last name. SolutionsBAC will confirm and reply with other payment options. Thank you!
Facilitator Bio:
MARY TANG has had several careers, working in different industries for nearly a hundred clients and employers – which provided her with broad business experience and insight. She consults for startup companies, nonprofits, private corporations and sole proprietorships – guiding them on cash flow management, policies and processes, improved profitability, planning for sustainability and growth.
Ms. Tang also coaches individuals on career planning, managing workplace issues, and finding right livelihood. She possesses degrees in Business and in Education.
SolutionsBAC for business & career success ~ Getting you to where you want to be!
www.linkedin.com/in/SolutionsBAC
I cheer for Mary Tang, SolutionsBAC, all her clients and students.
Wishing everyone a joyful and prosperous 2020!
Sincerely,
Teresa Jade LeYung
As a story theme consultant, award-winning writer, and platform-building coach for pre-published and published authors, Writing Coach TERESA JADE LEYUNG empowers her clients to identify their core themes in their manuscripts and career mapping.
http://lovemadeofheart.com/blog
December 28, 2019; January 25, 26, 2020
By Teresa Jade LeYung
Every year, I sponsor my Immigrant Experience Writing Contest (short stories, essays, monologues) offered through California Writers Club San Francisco Peninsula Branch and The Literary Stage at the San Mateo County Fair https://cwc-peninsula.org/the-literary-stage/. You do not have to live in California in order to enter any of the writing contests. Some contestants will enter an excerpt from a long piece of work (novels, memoirs) without investing time to rewrite the pages so that the piece would engage the reader with a beginning, middle and ending.
As a theme consultant and a writing coach, and a fan of a few television series, I have found another inspiration when teaching my clients how to show archetype-driven plotlines.
One of my favorite characters is Rhoda Morgenstern in the situational comedy (sitcom) RHODA portrayed by Valerie Harper.
One of my favorite episodes is “One Is A Number” (Season 4, Episode 4, written by Charlotte Brown). I love this episode because this is a stand-alone piece. I do not have to know the backgrounds of the characters. The script clearly shows what the main character (protagonist) wants and how she goes about getting it.
Act 1 – we see relationships, the protagonist’s personality and what she wants.
Fellow: “Rhoda, it was really nice of you to invite me to breakfast.”
Rhoda: “Gary, I did not invite you.” (with a smile)
Gary: “Well, then it was nice of you not to kick me out.”
Rhoda’s sister Brenda arrives to tell her why she can’t go out to dinner and the theatre with Rhoda tonight.
Act 2 – we see Protagonist pursuing what she wants.
Rhoda calls friends; they cannot go with her.
She asks her boss; he doesn’t like going to theatres.
She even asks Johnny Venture, the fellow she has been turning down; he cannot because he’s judging a beauty contest tonight.
Act 3 - Protagonist reveals what the real Antagonist is.
In her apartment, Rhoda paces, she picks up the theatre tickets and puts them down again.
She gets on the intercom with Carlton the doorman. She tells him why she doesn’t want to go out alone at nighttime – she fears what people could be thinking of her, how they would judge her.
Archetype: Carlton is the unexpected ally and mentor
Act 4 – Protagonist has overcome Antagonist.
At a restaurant where tea tastes like coffee (Rhoda is escaping from pouring rain), she meets:
- a taxi driver who is eating his spaghetti dinner
- an old woman named Marie who says she is a stewardess on a rocket on the Martian Space Patrol
- the waitress named Bea who says: “What are you doing out on a terrible night like this?”
Rhoda: “Tonight was a big night for me. I was trying to do something alone.”
Bea: “You married?”
Rhoda: “Divorced.”
Bea: “Sounds like you’re already doing something alone.”
Act 5 -Protagonist has been transformed.
In her apartment are her allies – her sister Brenda, Brenda’s boyfriend Benny, Gary, Johnny.
Rhoda comes home. She says: “I had a great time. It was wonderful. It’s great to go out alone, I found out. I mean, you meet terrific people…. You would have loved it….”
Her boss Jack arrives. “You’re not dead.”
Brilliant line. Rhoda is the opposite of dead.
She has realized a new life. She can go out alone and enjoy herself. She has learned to look at people. She wants to share her discovery with her sister and friends.
They want to leave.
Rhoda says: “You had to be there. I love you all, even if you didn’t get it.”
“Brenda, look at me. Have you ever seen your sister in better shape?”
After Rhoda closes the door, she reaches into her bag and pulls out Bea’s hat (souvenir from mentor archetype) and puts it on her head.
I love how sitcom character Rhoda Morgenstern shows beginning, middle, and ending through an archetype-driven plotline! Thank you, Ms. Charlotte Brown!
Cheering for all Writers and Readers!

Story Theme Consultant Teresa Jade LeYung - photo by Mary E. Knippel, creator of Your Writing Mentor
January 16, 2020
Who inspires me this month? In addition to dear friends, colleagues, mentors, relatives, neighbors, clients . . .
Artist Chandra Garsson Photographer Chandra Garsson
Her photographs / arts inspire wellness for the heart.
https://www.facebook.com/butterflybonesandhummingbirdsongs/ and https://www.facebook.com/chandra.garsson
The members and volunteers at Western Service Workers Association

http://www.wswaba.org/
WSWA is a free and voluntary membership association built by and for our membership of low-income service, domestic, in-home care, part-time and temporary workers since 1975. WSWA is entirely volunteer run, without a dime of government or other “strings attached” funds. WSWA’s self-help 11-point membership benefit program – including emergency food, clothing, preventive medical care, non-emergency dental care, legal advice and “Know Your Law” sessions and more – helps meet immediate needs while we pursue solutions to the cause of low wages, lack of benefits and unsafe working conditions.
Thank you, Wisdom Teacher Marie Elena Gaspari https://www.linkedin.com/in/marieelenagaspari-94798747 , for introducing me to the folks at WSWA!
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Everyone at California Clubhouse in San Mateo, CA
https://californiaclubhouse.org/
“Our Clubhouse offers hope, encouragement and opportunities to people who live with mental illness.”

https://californiaclubhouse.org/
Thank you, mentor Diane Warner, for introducing me to the folks at California Clubhouse!
Clubhouse International has succeeded in creating something that didn’t exist before a worldwide community that is changing the world of mental health. Through local Clubhouses around the world, we offer people living with mental illness opportunities for friendships, employment, housing, education, and access to medical and psychiatric services in a single caring and safe environment- so they can recover and fully participate as valued and respected members of society.
Awarded the 2014 Conrad N. Hilton Humanitarian Prize for extraordinary contributions toward alleviating human suffering.
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Cynthia Tom, creator of A PLACE OF HER OWN
https://www.aplaceofherown.org/
https://www.aplaceofherown.org/
MISSION
A PLACE OF HER OWN (PLACE) is an art making-based healing organization dedicated to sparking and sustaining the well-being of women. The transformation series of workshops culminate in an art exhibition for women.
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Michael Larsen, author coach
https://larsenauthorcoaching.com/

Michael Larsen Author Coach
Mr. Larsen says: “My experience as an agent and the author of successful books on proposals, agents, and marketing and co-founder of San Francisco Writers Conference and San Francisco Writing for Change Conference helps me provide you with the customized advice, encouragement, and mentorship you need to succeed.”
Look for Michael Larsen who will be at San Francisco Writers Conference 2020.
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Mary Tang doing business as SolutionsBAC
https://www.linkedin.com/in/solutionsbac
Ms. Tang consults for startup companies, privately-held corporations and sole proprietorships – helping them solve typical business problems as well as plan for sustained profitability and future growth. She’s assisted client companies with hiring technical, marketing, finance department staff; advised on headcount and HR-related matters. She also coaches individuals on career development, job search and interviewing techniques, managing workplace issues, life/work choices. She possesses degrees in Business and in Education.
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Mary E. Knippel, founder of Your Writing Mentor
Ms. Knippel says: “Let’s talk about where you are now…where you want to go…and how I may support you in the process.”
Look for Mary E. Knippel who will be orchestrating Independent Editors at San Francisco Writers Conference 2020.
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Victoria Sweet, M.D. and her book SLOW MEDICINE: The Way to Healing
https://www.victoriasweet.com/
Good medicine takes more than amazing technology; it takes time–time to respond to bodies as well as data, time to arrive at the right diagnosis and the right treatment.
Medicine, Dr. Victoria Sweet makes us see, is a craft and an art as well as a science. It is relational, personal, even spiritual. To do it well requires a hard-won wisdom that no algorithm can replace–that brings together “fast” and “slow” in a truly effective, efficient, sustainable, and humane way of healing.
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Frans de Waal and his book Mama’s Last Hug: Animal Emotions and What They Tell Us about Ourselves
https://www.ted.com/speakers/frans_de_waal
Frans de Waal studies primate social behavior — how they fight and reconcile, share and cooperate.
Dutch/American biologist, ethologist, primatologist Frans de Waal draws parallels between primate and human behavior, from peacemaking and morality to culture.
Thank you, mentor Diane Warner, for gifting me this eye-opening book!
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Francis Bellamy (1855-1931)
https://www.ushistory.org/documents/pledge.htm
“I pledge allegiance to my Flag and the Republic for which it stands, one nation, indivisible, with liberty and justice for all.”
Story Theme Consultant Teresa Jade LeYung says: “I am inspired by big hearts and humor.”
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Brilliant and prolific writers, comedians, entertainers, sages:
George Carlin
George Carlin on Our Similarities instead of our differences – things that make us the same.
Thank you, CappyNJ, for https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=cgps85scy1g
George Carlin on little things we share. From his 1992 special Jammin’ in New York.
I learned two words from Mr. Carlin – entropy; discography. Thank you!
John Cleese
John Cleese on Creativity In Management https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Pb5oIIPO62g
Thank you, John Cleese training company www.videoarts.com !
Wanda Sykes !
| COMEDY SPECIAL: | Wanda Sykes: Im’a Be Me |
| COMEDY SPECIAL: | Wanda Sykes: Sick and Tired |
| COMEDY SPECIAL: | Tongue Untied |
| BOOK: | Yeah I Said It |
For other posts in my blog, please go to: https://lovemadeofheart.com/blog
If you’re looking for my blog posts pertaining to our Beautiful Brains and Neuroplasticity… https://lovemadeofheart.com/blog look at right side of screen, you’ll see the category “Beautiful Brains Neuroplasticity”. Please click on that category to get those posts.
SolutionsBAC 2020 Career Planning & Job Search Clinic
Saturday, January 11, 2020; 11am – 1pm
4530 18th Street, San Francisco, CA 94114, USA
at Celebrate Life Spiritualist Community venue
(3.5 blocks from Castro Muni station, easy parking on 18th St. residential area)
Facilitator: Mary Tang dba SolutionsBAC
If you need ideas and direction with your current job search and career goals, come attend this discussion and brain-storming event. Learn how to add valuable skills to your work portfolio.
Topics may include:
* where to find employment leads, implementing job search strategies;
* good resumes lead to job interviews, so does networking;
* mock job interviews and how to tackle the toughest questions;
* handling the jitters, ways to prepare before the interview;
* how to negotiate salaries and request a position that best matches your skills/experience;
* choosing a career and plotting the path towards that goal.
The content for this workshop will be audience-centered, so bring your questions and concerns. Let’s share some great ideas, encourage and support each other.
Get set to make 2020 a successful year! Workshop fee is $10. You can reserve a seat by advance payment via PayPal at SolutionsBAC @ gmail.com account; or pay at the door, space available.
Facilitator Bio:
Mary Tang has explored several careers and worked for nearly a hundred different clients and employers (has been to hundreds of job interviews!). She consults for startup companies, privately-held corporations and sole proprietorships – helping them solve typical business problems as well as plan for sustained profitability and future growth. She’s assisted client companies with hiring technical, marketing, finance department staff; advised on headcount and HR-related matters.
Mary also coaches individuals on career development, job search and interviewing techniques, managing workplace issues, life/work choices. She possesses degrees in Business and in Education.
SolutionsBAC Helping businesses & individuals succeed!
www.linkedin.com/li/SolutionsBAC
Theme Consultant Teresa Jade LeYung Recommends 2020 Career Planning & Job Search Clinic with Mary Tang of SolutionsBAC
January 2020
Michael Larsen and his wife Elizabeth Pomada are two of the most big-hearted people I know.
Take a look at Michael Larsen Author Coaching
michaellarsenauthorcoaching.com
Over the decades, coaching his clients, and, giving his time at writers’ organizations, conferences, conventions, Michael Larsen must have inspired tens of thousands of writers.

Michael Larsen says:
“Now is the best time ever for you to be a writer. I love helping writers to earn the recognition and rewards they deserve. After 43 years as an agent, I’m now eager to do it as a writer, co-founder of San Francisco Writers Conference and San Francisco Writing For Change Conference, and a coach for fiction and nonfiction writers. I can help you understand and meet the challenges you face, and take advantages of the amazing opportunities waiting for you.
- Developing your craft
- Being clear about your literary and publishing goals
- Figuring out the best publishing option for you and your book
- Getting the best possible agent, editor, publisher, and deal for your book
- Learning the fastest way to build the writing career you want
- Having a positive but realistic perspective about publishing.
Your success will be my success.”
https://larsenauthorcoaching.com/coaching/
How to Write a Book Proposal, 5th Edition, by Jody Rein with Michael Larsen
How to Get a Literary Agent (3rd edition) by Michael Larsen
Guerrilla Marketing for Authors: 100 Weapons for Selling Your Work (coauthor) (2nd edition)
Writing Success Guaranteed: How to Deal Yourself Five Hearts to Win the Publishing Game by Michael Larsen (In progress)
Theme Consultant Teresa Jade LeYung salutes Hero Michael Larsen for coaching authors!
Sincerely,
Teresa Jade LeYung
As a story theme consultant, award-winning writer, and platform-building coach for pre-published and published authors, Writing Coach TERESA JADE LEYUNG empowers her clients to identify their core themes in their manuscripts and career mapping.
http://lovemadeofheart.com/blog
January 3, 2020
To Everyone,
Happy New Year !
I wish you excellent health, wonderment, and 20/20 vision to peace!
Sincerely,
Teresa Jade LeYung
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The Water Garden at Giverny – Claude Monet’s Water Lily Pond – photo by Teresa Jade LeYung
- Lady Liberty at Musée d’Orsay, Paris, France – photo by Teresa Jade LeYung
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Oh my! An Eiffel Tower Christmas tree (Thank you to the folks who displayed this) in Berkeley, California - photo by Linda A. Harris
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published December 14, 2019
Reading Victoria Sweet, M.D.’s new book SLOW MEDICINE The Way to Healing https://www.victoriasweet.com/ and watching/listening to Carole King (“A Conversation with Carole King” – Veteran journalist Mike Barnicle talks to Ms. King about her memoir A NATURAL WOMAN at John F. Kennedy Presidential Library and Museum on April 12, 2012) https://www.jfklibrary.org/events-and-awards/forums/2012-04-12-a-conversation-with-carole-king motivated my completing Part 2 of Author Teresa Jade LeYung’s New Monologue “What The Man In 17-B Wanted”
In my blog post http://lovemadeofheart.com/blog/blog-post-3-of-3-papa-makes-decision-while-in-nursing-home-again-by-teresa-jade-leyung/ my father was coping with his circumstances – as a reluctant resident at a nursing home.
This is what happened in November and December 2018.
Remember that piece of paper that I needed to fill out for the nursing home staff? The one about naming a mortuary. Every resident must fill out that form http://lovemadeofheart.com/blog/author-teresa-jade-leyungs-new-monologue-what-the-man-in-17-b-wanted-part-1/
Well, there is another form to deal with – “Notice to Terminate Lease” - the agreement between my father and the apartment building property management – that a tenant must give up his lease after six months of absence and vacate his apartment.
I waited for a “good” day to show this second document to my father. Only his signature would be accepted by the property manager. That day, Papa appeared to be cheerful, the sun was shining. I said to him: “Papa, remember you went to the hospital in July? You’re safe here with nurses and CNAs who care about you. Your Social Security money is paying for you to be here. There is no money to pay for your apartment too. Also, the lease says that you have to give up the apartment by end of December. I will help you. Don’t worry. I’ll take care of everything. You just have to sign this paper. Okay?”
He signed. I don’t know what happened after I said “Goodnight” to him. He probably cried when no one was watching.
What I didn’t have the heart to tell him was that every object which represented his life had to go away – to a storage unit , to a recycling center, or to the dump. If not for my brother’s first wife and four other precious friends, I wouldn’t have been strong enough to take on this job.
What irony for a writer – I (narrator) wanted to give my father (protagonist) what he wanted (to be able to return to the place he called “home”) but he was a fall risk and could no longer live alone. Because he was relying on me to be his advocate, and, because he didn’t get what he wanted most, he probably viewed me as an obstacle as well.
Like the son in the movie Garbo Speaks (written by Larry Grusin), I was the daughter who was worn out chasing after something that seemed impossible to obtain.
Back to that first piece of paper that I needed to fill out for the nursing home staff.
I need to do the right thing when Papa dies. Mrs. Chu, the oldest resident at the nursing home, is 107! My father is only 85. He has a long way to go.
Does my father want to be buried or cremated? He won’t talk about illness, certainly not about funeral. I cannot read his mind.
Thanks to Dr. Amy Grace Lam who said to me “Teresa, you will get your answer not by asking your father but by finding the right person to ask your father.”
The right person would be someone who speaks fluent Cantonese and is the archetype to ask such a question.
On the day when all three Cantonese-speaking team members (nurse, social worker, chaplain) showed up at the nursing home to meet my father and me, Amy Grace Lam’s words replayed in my head.
I showed Chaplain Yuen the piece of paper and told him: “I want to honor my father’s body and need to know what he wants.”
I did not need to explain any further; the chaplain nodded, and took the paper from my hand.
While he was chatting with my father, I stepped aside to talk to the nurse and social worker.
Fifteen minutes later, I hear Chaplain Yuen telling my father that he would visit again. As though a director was in the room and we were all rehearsing a scene, a CNA comes into the room to distract my father. The chaplain says to me: “Your father wants burial, not cremation.” The social worker tells me that she’ll get me a list of mortuaries which will include those catering to families of Chinese heritage.
I got what I wanted – the answer to my question. What more can a daughter ask for.
I wish you, dear Reader, excellent health.
For other posts in my blog, please go to: https://lovemadeofheart.com/blog
If you’re looking for my blog posts pertaining to our Beautiful Brains and Neuroplasticity… https://lovemadeofheart.com/blog look at right side of screen, you’ll see the category “Beautiful Brains Neuroplasticity”. Please click on that category to get those posts.
Sincerely,
Teresa Jade LeYung
As a story theme consultant, award-winning writer, and platform-building coach for pre-published and published authors, Writing Coach TERESA JADE LEYUNG empowers her clients to identify their core themes in their manuscripts and career mapping.
http://lovemadeofheart.com/blog
TERESA JADE LEYUNG (formerly Teresa LeYung-Ryan) is the author of:
Love Made Of Heart
Build Your Writer’s Platform & Fanbase In 22 Days: Attract Agents, Editors, Publishers, Readers, and Media Attention NOW
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